I managed to get out of the house today... it was important, because I had been so upset by yesterday's news. We knew that this particular friend wasn't doing well - she stopped chemo 2 1/2 months ago, after all, and we thought she'd go much more quickly than she did - but that doesn't change how deeply affected I am.
Her memorial service will be held next Saturday, September 12 near Poughkeepsie, NY and I'm thinking of going. All I have to do is figure out how to get there. I'd thought about driving but it's an eight hour drive each way, plus stops and the border crossing. If I had someone who was part of our group and wanted to go, we could share the drive, making this the best way to go.
Flying is fastest but you pay for that. It used to be easy to fly from our local airport to the US via Detroit but the company stopped that flight. So if I wanted to fly, I'd have to do it from the Toronto airport which would involve transportation costs to/from the airport... and those aren't cheap.
I'm seriously thinking about taking the train. It's about ten hours or so each way, which is about the same as driving would be, and it's about half the price of plane fare. Plus I wouldn't have to take expensive rides to and from the airport.
We'll see. I'm going to sleep on this but I'm pretty sure I'm going to go.... I think I need to, not just to say goodbye to my friend but to mourn in the company of my other friends who knew her, if that makes sense.