Saturday, October 13, 2007

Went to a wedding today

We went to a friend's wedding today. We've known the happy couple for a few years - they're really great for each other and together make the world a better place.

The wedding ceremony and dinner were each delayed but about 30 minutes because we were waiting for someone. There had been an accident on the 401 and so the ceremony was delayed in hopes that people stuck in that traffic would make it in. The dinner was delayed because we were waiting for a projector that someone was supposed to bring. Aside from those two delays, everything ran very smoothly. The food was delicious, the hall clean and bright, and the decorations festive. It was a very nice venue with very good food.

I think that if Ian and I ever get married, we're going to ask that children under 10 not come. There were about eight or ten kids there of varying ages up to about eight years old. They were brats. One whined and cried through the whole ceremony and refused to listen to his parents (I asked the dad whether the child had a form of autism since he didn't respond to people's instructions and seemed lost in his own world, but the father said that he was normal. Hmm). During dinner several kids (including the aforementioned delightful one) ran around the tables chasing each other. During the speeches, they played cars and throwing toys over on the dance floor, blocking out the speeches themselves.

Not that the speeches or ceremony is necessarily interesting, but I'd rather not be distracted by small children with short attention spans forced to stay awake and do stuff with their parents from noon to midnight or so. Those kids were LOUD.

Not that I hate kids; I don't. I don't much like them these days, partly because I can't have any, but I don't mind them if I don't really notice them. That's why, if we ever get married, we don't want little kids there. Don't worry, if there were such little people whenever this hypothetical wedding happens, we'll provide entertainment for them during the "boring" parts. Fair enough? :)


Darling Jee said...

Wow, I'm so glad you said that. I think that kids who aren't old enough to understand that they must sit quietly through a wedding ceremony/speeches shouldn't come. When did it become appropriate for kids to be obnoxious at these types of events? Why don't more parents also think that way?

I fully acknowledge that I would probably be a terrible parent and my kids would be holy terrors. And maybe I'd be so frustrated and beyond caring that I would just let them do whatever they wanted. But man, "kids these days" drive me nuts!

Laura W said...

We were (pleasantly) surprised when we able to bring our kids to our friends' wedding back in fall of 1999. I think they decided that kids would be okay because there would be so few of them.

When the minister got to the part of the ceremony about "if anyone knows just cause why these two should not be married, let him speak now..." That's when Julia (then 7 months old) went "ya ya ya ya ya ya ya". Fortunately, she was young enough for that to be cute, not obnoxious.

Charles had another 3-year-old boy to play with, so that kept him busy and reasonably quiet. During the speeches, a teenager took them out to the hallway to play. During the dancing, they were both on the floor dancing with everybody else.

I guess what I'm saying in a very long-winded way is that my kids actually survived a wedding without being obnoxious.

Would I have taken such a chance at my wedding? No way! The youngest people at our wedding were the flower girl (age 9) and the ring bearer (age 3.5).